Hello again – My grandson is now 12 weeks old – still a little while before the girls start batting their long eyelashes at him, although his 4 year old cousin is already doing it, and so is his 19 year old auntie. 

“PANDA BEAR  RELATIONSHIPS”

“Once Upon A Time”………………… There was a Panda Bear who was in search of a mate ……….. and they lived happily ever after……… or did they? 

Did you know?

When a Female Panda Bear is ready to mate, she sends her energy, thoughts, desires, passion out into the Universe.
She doesn’t just want a mate – she wants the best mate. ‘BEST’

The Strongest.
Most Caring.
Best Provider.
Most Attentive.
Affectionate.
Patient.
Good Listener.

Someone who will never desert her, who will stay with her through thick and thin.   Be there with her from beginning to end.
Will be sensitive/loving  throughout  her emotional challenges, be they PMS, ‘hormonal pregnancy’ sensitive times, ‘not enough sleep – baby feeding times’, ups and downs of menopause, or anything else that may reveal itself throughout the relationship.

The Male Panda Bears pick up her messages, and head in her direction.
The first of many  arrives and approaches her, yet to his amazement, she hisses, and spits, and scratches, and bites.
He is totally blown away – shakes his head and walks away. Total Confusion. “Women” – he mutters under his breath.
She brushes herself off, and continues to munch on her organic bamboo shoots. With A Knowing, That The Right One Will Come.

Not long after the first Panda Bear wandered off in total amazement, another was approaching through the thick bamboo growth.
He was much bigger than the first, with Big Eyes, BIG – HUGE. 
He could see a clearing through the thick growth, and then he saw her, sitting to one side of the clearing, totally absorbed by what she was doing, and paying no attention to the crackling noises coming from afar.  
As he approached, he was bedazzled by her beauty,  she glanced up for just a moment and his big sensitive eyes  looked straight through her. For a moment – she was frozen. He took that as a sign, and stepped closer, when all of a sudden, she jumped to her feet and growled at him, he not knowing what to do stepped back, then approached her again, she took a swipe at him, and he went running! running … running … running.  Running Very Fast. WOW! Women – they give you the come on then they turn on you.

One suitor after another and another and another, came and left.
There was the Panda Bear who had the Sweetest Voice, and would serenade her.  
Then there was Dancing Feet – who would spin her ’round the clearing.   
Big Ears – who would listen to all her problems.
Strong Arms – who would hold her when she needed to be held.
She hissed, and scratched, and bit, and growled at all of them, and they all left, never to return.  Licking their wounds and feeling hard done by this Crazy Female Panda Bear.
She was calm and composed, because SHE KNEW  that when the right one came along, ‘She Would Know’, and ‘He Would Stay’.

Then One Day – out of the blue, the ground shook, twigs snapped, there was music in the air.  As she stood up to see what all the commotion was about – He stepped through the thick growth into the clearing.
Their eyes met, and ‘She Knew’, as he stepped closer to her. Then, all of a sudden she lunged at him, hissed, and scratched, and bit, and growled. He didn’t run.
‘He Stayed’ - and they lived happily ever after.  She knew that with all his strength, they would have the strongest, best baby panda bears, because they would have all the qualities of all the other Panda Bears, in one neat package.

Men – Did You Know, That Women Are Panda Bears?  All They Want Is To Be Loved Always.  THE END
Olga Szewczuk

I’m back……… have a brand new grandson, almost 9 days old. Need to shake up all the relationship myths before he enters the dating scene…………………………..

Ladies have you ever felt so “into a guy” that – you just didn’t exist anymore?

Lost your identity and took on his!

Like you were walking on egg shells, totally besotted, if he moved all of a sudden, you fell flat on your face!

When we focus on a man – he picks up on it.

You’d think he’d be flattered, that we SMS him whenever he pops into our head. Pleased, maybe even find it adorable, cute, that we’re all hung up on him and can’t get our minds on our own stuff. ‘The things that make us happy’.

Guess What? – That Never Happens!

The moment he gets a whiff of us focusing on him, thinking about him, wondering what he’s doing – we’re lost.

He withdraws and our self-esteem goes down the drain.

Most men, just naturally move away from us when it doesn’t feel good to be with us, especially, when the woman he’s with is zeroed in on him.

Men may be simple, but they’re not stupid.

For the most part, men use their gut instincts more than we do – they pick up on stuff.

Men may not be able to tell you what, or put it into words, yet they know how they FEEL, when they pick up on things. They don’t analyze their feelings like we do, they just feel an urge to move toward, or away from us, either want to touch, or not, without knowing why. They just feel like being there, or not being there. A clarity most women would love to have.

Men just don’t question their desires so much.

In Our Hearts – We know this to be true, yet it seems totally out of our control, or is it?

When you make changes on the outside – words/body language, things start to change on the inside. When you feel different on the inside, things change on the outside.

Everything always gets better!

That’s why it’s so important to Hold Onto Yourself.

NEW BELIEF SYSTEM

Believe it or not – Women – are the ones in control of relationships.

The keys to the BMW are always with us. The BMW goes nowhere without the keys, which we hold firmly in our hands. We are the fuel, we are the rich interior, we are the comfortable leather seats, we are the engine, we are also the sleek exterior, and we HAVE THE KEYS. We don’t hand them over anymore, the moment he shows any interest.

We don’t need to be on that emotional rollercoaster anymore, as we are in control, we hold the keys.

So Ladies – open your hearts, yet hold them ever so softly in the palms of your hands. Let your hearts be seen, felt, allow them to radiate vibrant, warm energy, yet always be in control, always keep a soft, gentle grip. Share the warmth of your heart, while always being in control, always holding the keys in your hands.

Open-hearted and soft on the outside, strong on the inside. You can do it! We have that inner strength.

We don’t have any control over a man – not one little bit – but we have lots of control over ourselves.

Because we hold the keys.

We can control our breathing – and even our heart rate. We can control the words we say, the tone of voice we use, what and when we say it. We can control whether we step forward or backward, and so many other things, that can change our own feelings of wellbeing, especially the way HE sees us – are under our control. We hold the keys.

- remember – ‘WE HAVE THE KEYS’

p.s.- have been doing some research on ‘Men in Relationships’ – RSVP is a very interesting source of information. Will share some of my findings in my next post.

till next time

love olya